Compassionate care for all generations

Of course, you’re looking for answers but, where do you begin? When a loved one passes on, you may feel overwhelmed and uncertain. This list of commonly asked questions will help you gather your thoughts, give you a clear starting point and help you on your way to healing.

After the death of a loved one, what should I do first?

In circumstances where death is imminent, it’s best to contact Lakeshore Funerals before the need arises. Our funeral director, Dan Schubring will guide you in a professional and informative manner. We are available to assist you at any time of the day or evening. Many families choose to have a hospice program administer care in the home of the dying person. Once death has occurred, the family should immediately call the hospice nurse on duty to come to the home and make the official pronouncement of death. The nurse or a family member can call the funeral home to come and bring your loved one into our care. In the event of an inpatient hospital death, our staff will work with the appropriate administrator to coordinate the transfer to our facility. In situations where death is sudden, the police and the medical examiner may intervene to determine the circumstances surrounding the death. No matter the situation, it is best to know your options in advance.

What exactly is a “Jewish” funeral?

First and foremost, the intent of a Jewish funeral is to comfort the survivors. It is important that those close family members, with support from clergy and extended family, decide what customs and traditions best meet your needs. An open casket ceremony is almost always avoided out of respect to the deceased. The funeral service should be designed to honor the memory of your loved one and support the survivors in their time of need. Judaism provides the context, friends and family provide the support, and the funeral director is there to make sure all the necessary elements are presented in a seamless, dignified manner.

My spouse is Jewish, but I’m not. How will that affect my decisions?

In this uncertain time, the surviving spouse should consult with his or her clergy. Both the funeral director and a Rabbi can explain the customs and traditions. You should consider seeking the guidance of either professional before the need arises. You may also have access to a hospice rabbi that can serve to answer many of your concerns. Your spouse’s relatives might offer guidance and assistance. Wherever you choose to turn, be confident there are those close to you who will lend their support and guidance.

Sometimes, a surviving partner or non-family member is requested or expected to make funeral arrangements. We consider every relationship of value, and we will work hard to create the kind of funeral that will best honor the deceased. That being said, we are bound by certain laws regarding final disposition, and depending on your relationship, we suggest you seek legal advice in securing the rights to make final health care and funeral decisions.

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